Always waiting for the “perfect time” to get started on new projects? To learn a new skill? To eat better? To exercise more? If so, here’s something to think about.
- When I get a different job
- When things are less busy
- When I find a workout partner
- When I find the right equipment
- When I feel less awkward in the gym
- When I lose 20 lbs
- When I get the right workout routine
- When my fridge is full of the right foods.
- Tomorrow. Next week. Never.
Human beings are always “waiting for the perfect time”. But why?
For many, it’s a great distraction and justification. It helps us avoid the real — and risky – work of doing. For others, perfectionism and avoidance serve as strong armor against potential embarrassment, criticism, and failure. Unfortunately, it’s also what keeps us from growing, thriving, being who we know we have the potential to be.
There is no perfect time. There never will be. Nobody is going to give you any moments. You have to take moments. Make them happen. There is a perfect moment. That perfect moment is now. Here. Today. Because that is all you ever have: right now.
Just start. At the beginning.
Here is another secret. You don’t have to actually work to get to the next moment. All you have to do is start. And then, moments will keep moving, as moments do. One moment will stack on top of another and before you know it, you’ll have arrived at your destination.
Starting means initiating action. Starting means committing to a choice of some kind or another. This is how you know it is a true start. As long as something is moving, that’s a start.
Push through. Embrace Resistance.
Many people starting out assume that because they feel resistance, they have failed. Not True! You just have to push through the resistance of the first few moments.
If you are struggling with “waiting for the perfect time”, these tips might help:
- Revise your expectations. Recognize that there is no perfect time and there never will be.
- Carve out time, even if it’s imperfect. Nobody will give that time to you. You’ll need to take it.
- Just start. Find the smallest possible thing you can do right now, in the next 5 minutes, and do it. Now you’ve started!
- Do something, anything. Action is a “vote” in favor of a different, healthier, fitter life.
- You only have to get through this moment. This moment of starting will be the hardest. Luckily, it won’t last long.
- Expect resistance. It’s normal. Push through it. Resistance doesn’t mean this won’t work. It just means you’ve started.
- Get support. Whether it’s a friend or family member, workout buddy, or a coach, find someone to fire up your booster rockets until you can fly on your own.
For most people, getting started is the hardest thing. Figuring out what to do first. Overcoming inertia. Taking that first step into the unknown. So push through and embrace resistance.
Want some help getting started? At Fitness With Daisy, through my coaching program, I have helped clients move from “all or nothing” to “always something”. If you’re looking for that kind of help and guidance too, let me know. I would be happy to work with you.